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I can only assume that you found this page because a time of your life that was supposed to consist of love and happiness, unexpectedly has turned to unimaginable heartbreak and sorrow...the loss of a child.
Whether you found my website on your own or someone who cares about you sent you here, I would like to extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. I am sending you so many virtual hugs. I see you. I see your pain. I remember that pain like it happened yesterday. I was 15.5 weeks pregnant when I lost my daughter, Chloe, in an abusive situation. I didn't have much support following my loss. At that time, my only priority was to get myself and my earthside six month old out of that situation. It took years for me to speak up about my loss and actually allow myself to start healing, grieving, and processing that loss.
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grief | /ɡrēf/ | noun | deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death
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Grief is a normal part of being a human. It is a deep, overwhelming sadness after losing something we loved. Everyone expresses their grief in different ways; crying, screaming, silence, etc. There is no wrong way to grieve. There is also no timeframe, but I can guarantee you that it will last longer than you expect. It will also sneak up on you years later. Grief is love that has no place to go.
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Do not let anyone tell you that you should be done grieving by a certain time. Do not let anyone tell you that the length of your pregnancy determines the amount of sadness you are "allowed" to have. No matter the age, I want you to remember that your baby existed...your baby mattered. Your baby will always matter.
The Loss Collection
>> from, a mom walking beside you
I know it's dark right now. I know it feels like there will never be sunlight again. But I promise you, it will come. It will be slow. It will take it's time. You will feel joy again, you will see that sunlight shining down on you. It might feel wrong the first time you do. But it's okay. Most things need sunlight to grow. You have lost so much already. So please, please do not lose yourself. Do not lose yourself in the depths of your grief. Do not think that you have to "move on" from this tragedy. Smiling, laughing, enjoying things, are NOT signs that you have stopped loving or missing your baby. They are signs that your love is eternal. Signs that you are strong. You are loved. Your baby is loved. Most importantly, you are NOT alone. Be gentle with yourself. Deep breaths.
♥ love, Jeni - Chloe's mom
✦ The Chloe Grace Project ✦
For so long, I have had so many visions for what The Chloe Grace Project will be. But one of the big, first, things I would love to start is an E-Book of letters "from, a mom walking beside you". Just like my letter, to YOU, above. If you would like to submit your own letter for this collection, please use this form. Thank you so much ♡